Your child could say goodbye to compulsions, rituals and obsessive thoughts. OCD can be beaten. Let’s work together to make it happen!
OCD is a cruel master and it’s particularly true when it’s taking over the lives of children or teenagers. The obsession with hand-washing, the tyranny of obsessive thoughts, the rituals surrounding tidiness, order and routine – they can overwhelm a young life and eliminate, pleasure, relaxation and peace.
I have helped a great many people over the years, in Reading, Oxford and in all surrounding areas of Oxfordshire and Berkshire, to let go of OCD. They have been as old as men and women in their 70s and as young as 10. OCD doesn’t discriminate between male and female, young and old. It’s a terrible foe and I greatly look forward to helping your son and daughter to free themselves from its grasp.
I also offer counselling and psychotherapy for OCD online, using vsee, whatsapp, zoom. Please get in touch for details.
OCD is a symptom of anxiety
The DSM V classifies OCD as being one of the anxiety disorders. It is one possible avenue for those who suffer from a high degree of anxiety. Others might include substance abuse, self-harm, trichotillomania or any other of a vast number of conditions which have anxiety at their base.
OCD is what you have seen as a parent. There is a lower level of anxiety which both created and which sustains those OCD behaviours which you’d like to see come to an end. Thoughts create the anxiety (though it can be the other way around) and this anxiety creates the compulsion to wash hands, tidy one’s room or suchlike. When the compulsion is satisfied there is a temporary feeling of relief, which merely rewards the original anxiety. We all know what happens when you reward someone or something. You merely encourage them to repeat their behaviour.
When we reward anxiety with relief we merely encourage more anxiety.
I don’t know which caused that anxiety to begin. Perhaps you have an idea, perhaps you don’t. Perhaps we’ll find out, it may be that we won’t. It might be that you, too are anxious or have tendencies to be overly-clean or fussy about hygiene. It might be a seemingly unrelated mater, such as a parental illness, divorcing parents or the loss of a grandparent which has somehow brought about the condition. There are a great many routes into OCD.
All we can know, before you and I begin working together, is that OCD behaviours ( thoughts are a slightly different matter ) are an attempt to establish control. Routines, avoidance and rituals are an unconscious means of being more in control of one’s life than once felt to be the case.
This all means that working on the underlying anxieties, beliefs and thought patterns is as important as working on the habits, rituals and routines themselves. OCD is complex. It requires a comprehensive response.
What about obsessive thoughts?
Some people suffer from what’s called ‘pure o’. This is OCD without the rituals and compulsions. It’s a matter of obsessive thoughts which circle round and round, causing ever-increasing degrees of stress.
Health anxiety is one form of anxiety which closely mirrors OCD. Thoughts, anxiety and worry circle endlessly and the more one becomes stressed and distressed by the thoughts the more they simply keep on coming.
As with the more general form of OCD, the ‘pure o’ form is based upon a deeper level of anxiety. Feelings of being not good enough, amongst adolescents, can commonly morph into worries regarding sexuality, for example. Fears of being homosexual can quickly take hold and become excessively obsessive. This is called HOCD.
Whatever it is, Resolved! Counselling for Children could help
I began my work as an adult psychotherapist and hypnotherapist. That side of my working life saw me cut my teeth on problems such as OCD. I have always worked with adolescents as a part of my case-load, due to my extensive experience with this age bracket whilst a secondary school teacher.
I am now trained to use other forms of child and adolescent psychotherapy with those below the age of ten. I have acquired a wide-range of experience and skills through which I can fashion a therapeutic approach for teenagers, adolescents and children of any age.
If you live in or around Oxford or Reading and have a son or daughter in need of help then please do get in touch. I would be more than glad to talk with you and to discuss how my skills, experience and training could help your son or daughter to free themselves from the tyranny of obsessive compulsive disorder. ICD doesn’t have to be in charge any longer . I could help to set them free.
You could call me on 07786 123736 / 01865 600970 or 01883 280284. You could also email me at paul@resolvedcounsellingforchi;ldren.com or otherwise use the contact form at the bottom of this page.
However yo choose to get in touch, I look forward to hearing from you.