A phobia of birds can be resolved.
A phobia, by definition, is an irrational fear of something. It may be perfectly rational to experience fear if an ostrich is charging at you but the parakeets in this video are in danger of causing no harm to any single person, ever. The woman’s fear of these beautiful birds is hard-wired and you can almost feel it when you watch her learning to let it go.
I have worked with many people, including children and teenage adolescents, who were once paralysed by a phobia of birds. I’ve worked with the fear in both Reading and Oxford and so can tell you that it’s perfectly possible to let it go. If your son or daughter is willing to engage with me and with the therapeutic process then he or she could be more confident and happier around birds than they dare imagine.
I also offer counselling and psychotherapy for ornithophobia online, using vsee, whatsapp, zoom. Please get in touch for details.
It can be a socially crippling fear to have
Most people don’t really notice birds very often. We’re usually too busy to stop and look or aren’t particularly interested to begin with. I notice them because I love them, particularly pigeons, and I notice people walking through crowds of them as if they’re not even there.
But they are there. They’re pretty much everywhere. Any park will see birds of all kinds flitting through the trees and upon the grass. Riverbanks are populated by ducks, swans, moorhens and geese. Town centres will, of course, always have a swarm of pigeons.
If you’re afraid of birds then perhaps you can imagine what a torture such places can be. Will you want to go to the beach with your family if there are gulls squawking everywhere? Would you enjoy trips to the shops with your friends? People with a phobia will withdraw from the things they fear. They’ll shy away from the places where those things are to be found. With a fear of birds that can mean pretty much everywhere.
Of course, you’re here because you know all this already. Perhaps you’ve come to realise just how much your son or teenager has been affected by their fear. Perhaps they’re becoming increasingly unable to go out. Perhaps they’ve become fed up of being embarrassed.
How does a phobia of birds come into being?
Young children, in particular, are extremely impressionable. One single startling encounter with a bird flapping its wings very close by could potentially be enough to profoundly scare the child and so begin a wariness around the creatures which then deepens over time.
Perhaps such an encounter will cause a phobia in an instant. The brain, after all, learns very quickly to avoid things which cause fear.
Some children will inherit the phobia from a parent. Our children watch us constantly and it pays for them to learn from us. They can learn phobic responses just as easily as anything else.
After all, if those powerful adults who look after us can be scared of birds, there must be something genuinely scary about them, mustn’t there…?! Some children can even pick up a phobia from a friend, so keen are they to fit in.
Perhaps something terrible happened to terrify or upset your son or daughter and birds were just one aspect of that memory. The brain works by making links between events, objects and so forth. Sometimes those links between fear and a harmless object or creature just don’t make any sense.
Your child’s imagination is working against them
People with a phobia will often find themselves shuddering at the thought of the thing which scares them. They will imagine themselves helplessly surrounded by birds, spiders or whatever it is which their phobia features. This act of imagining the horror story merely makes the fear worse.
It needn’t be that way.
I could help your child or teenager to use their imagination in a positive manner. I could help them to summon their strength in order to break the neuronal bonds between birds and the fight or flight response. I could help them to be free of the fear of birds, once and for all.
Long before I began training as a child and adolescent psychotherapist I was an adult psychotherapist, specialising in the use of hypnotherapy. It’s my view and experience that nothing beats hypnotherapy when it comes to phobias. The good news is that children are particularly awesome at engaging with the process. I am able to use a combination of my current child-related skills and my hypnotherapeutic approaches in order to help people to be free of their fears.
If your son or daughter is ready and willing to meet with me and make it happen then simply get in touch. I work with child and adolescents in Reading and Oxford. You could call me on 07786 123736 / 01183 280284 / 01865 600970. Alternatively, email me at email@example.com or contact me through the form at the bottom of the page.
I look forward to hearing from you.