A fear of dentists? Resolved! Counselling for Children could help!

If you’re here because your son and daughter refuses to go to the dentist, or because they’re displaying and inordinate amount of fear, then perhaps I could be of help. 

I understand how difficult it can be to see your child’s dental health deteriorate, knowing that every week which passes sees their need for the dentist grow whilst their pain and need for dental interventions only increases. If your child’s fear is only leading to a greater and greater dental emergency then help is at hand.

I have helped many people, including teenagers and younger children, to overcome the fear of going to the dentist. If you live in or around Reading or Oxford then perhaps I could help your child too.

I also offer counselling and psychotherapy for the fear of dentists online, using vsee, whatsapp, zoom. Please get in touch for details.

The dentist can’t be avoided forever?

The longer things are allowed to drag on the worse the problem becomes. It’s simply unviable to hope that things will improve by themselves. Fear only increases over time. Children and teenagers learn to become more afraid, not less. 

I could help your child to be free of their fear. At the very least I could help them to manage their fear  sufficiently well in order to enable them to get the visit done. 

Don’t wait for a true dental emergency to arise. Give me a call and we’ll discuss how I could help your child to let go of their fear of visiting the dentist.

How does a dental phobia take root?

fear of dentistsGoing to the dentist is very rarely a pleasant experience. I don’t think I’ve ever met anybody who enjoys it. A phobia, however, can quickly develop if a young child has had a particularly unpleasant time of it. Perhaps they had a painful extraction, were sat in the dentist’s chair for a particularly long time or perhaps they had to suffer a somewhat unsympathetic dentist or dental nurse.

Perhaps, for whatever reason, your own response to the situation somehow contributed to the birth of this fear. Getting annoyed with a child who is anxious about a dental procedure can make things worse. It’s not a question of blame but sometimes an explanation helps.

Children are incredibly perceptive and look up to parents for clues as to how safe a situation is. If you have your own fear of dentists then it’s very likely that your child will pick up on it and come to fear dentistry too.

I have worked with all kinds of adult clients who saw their own parents in dental pain. Some saw parents have all their own teeth taken out.  It was quite common, in days gone by, to have teeth removed as a precaution. Seeing your own parents without teeth, before the fitting of dentures, with all the blood and the difficulty in eating and speaking, is an excellent way of developing a fear of going to the dentist.

I find, very often, that children with a phobia have a parent whose own response to the feared stimulus contains fear and loathing.

The good news is…

anxiety and hypnotherapyModern dentistry is pretty much always done without any real pain or discomfort. Your child has developed their fear of dentists because they have imagined a terrible experience. There is very rarely any real basis to such a phobia in this day and age. Their anxiety arose in an attempt to protect them from their imagined fears.

What your child’s imagination has created can also be dispelled through the power of this imagination. I utilise a combination of psychotherapy, mindfulness and hypnotherapy in order to help your child to achieve this goal and to sit more easily with their natural and understandable level of nervousness. 

The fear and the phobia can be dispelled. Nervousness, however, is a natural response to any medical procedure. It is particularly to be accepted in children and younger teenagers. Learn to deal with this more effectively and it does not spiral into panic. Learn to do this and the phobia fades and disappears. 

I have a great deal of experience in dealing with phobias. In my former role as an adult psychotherapist I majored in the use of hypnotherapy. Hypnotherapy doesn’t always have the greatest of reputations and I understand why, being that it is frequently employed by under-trained and ethically dubious practitioners. However, in the hand of properly trained and ethical individuals (and I would count myself amongst those people) there is nothing I have come across which is more effective in the treatment of a phobia. 

Given my training as a child and adolescent psychotherapist I am now ideally placed to help children such as yours to overcome their fears.

Resolved! Counselling for children is very experienced in dealing with phobias

I have spent many hundreds of hours helping adult to deal with their phobias. I am now ready and waiting to help your child with theirs. If you’d like to learn more then please get in touch to learn more about the blend of therapies I offer and its efficacy with phobias. You could call me on 07786 123736 / 01183 280284 / 01865 600970 , email me at paul@resolvedcounsellingforchildren.com or use the contact form in the footer of this page. I look forward to hearing from you.

Best wishes

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